The New York City Department of Consumer Affairs compared nearly 800 products with female and male versions — meaning they were practically identical except for the gender-specific packaging — and uncovered a persistent surcharge for one of the sexes. Controlling for quality, items marketed to girls and women cost an average 7 percent more than similar products aimed at boys and men.
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My parents: How come you never socialize with the family?
Me: *sits with family*
Me:*gets insulted by entire family*
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Starting early in 2016, new policies in California and Oregon will allow women in those states to access hormonal contraception without a doctor’s prescription. In both states, pharmacists will be empowered to conduct a pre-screening and then prescribe birth control, eliminating the need for women to visit—or even call—a doctor before they can obtain the pill, patch, or ring. Both medical practitioners and reproductive health experts say this is a huge step towards making birth control accessible for any woman who needs or wants it—and that it’s about time.
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Melissa Newman-Evans - “9 Things I Would Like to Tell to Every Teenage Girl”
“The world is trying to kill each and every one of you, and if you do not hold each other up, no one else will.”
Performing for Denver during semifinals at the 2015 National Poetry Slam. Subscribe to Button on YouTube!
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Anonymous asked: He's non binary yet you call him 'he/him/husband'. If he doesn't identify as a gender, then why call him by male pronouns? You're flawing your own constant preaches.
Those are his fucking chosen pronouns you ignorant cock sore. You clearly know nothing about nb identities or pronouns. No wonder you’re on anonymous, I would be too if I was as ignorant and insistent on being heard as you are. So the world a favour and Google shit before bringing your transphobia here to me.
He/him are not pronouns that can only be used by men and she/her are not pronouns that can only be used by women. A person can use whatever pronouns they’re most comfortable with and just because they happen to be used commonly by binary individuals doesn’t mean they can’t be used by enbies too.
drst:
[Screencap of an article from washingtonpost.com, titled: The Elf on the Shelf is preparing your child to live in a future police state, professor warns.
(Article photo is of the aforementioned “Elf on the Shelf”, taken with him between two very tall buildings.)
Excerpt from article:
Children who participate in play with The Elf on the Shelf doll have to contend with rules at all times during the day: they may not touch the doll, and they must accept that the doll watches them at all times with the purpose of reporting to Santa Claus.]
This is such a good article though
The argument Pinto makes is that the story and the doll normalize 24-hour surveillance in the mind of a child, which makes them susceptible to more passively accept police-state surveillance as adults.
“I don’t think the elf is a conspiracy and I realize we’re talking about a toy,” Pinto told The Post. “It sounds humorous, but we argue that if a kid is okay with this bureaucratic elf spying on them in their home, it normalizes the idea of surveillance and in the future restrictions on our privacy might be more easily accepted.”
It’s based in a theory that was developed by Jeremy Bentham and popularized by Michel Foucault in which students, prisoners, factory workers and others were thought to function better (for whatever value of better) in a system called a panopticon, in which an individual is potentially under surveillance 24-hours a day, but never actually KNOWS whether or not he or she is being surveilled.
Pinto said she’s not the first person to be troubled by Elf on the Shelf’s surveilling. She’s said parents routinely contact her to say they changed the rules of the game after it made their families uneasy. And many kids, she said, often intuitively feel like spying and being a tattletale is wrong.
“A mom e-mailed me and told me that the first day they read the elf book and put the elf out, her daughter woke up crying because she was being watched by the elf,” Pinto recounted. “They changed the game so it wouldn’t scare the child.”
In addition to the problem of normalizing surveillance in the mind of a child, this also forces the child into a situation where they never feel like they are free to simply be themselves; they are forced to be “on their best behavior” at all times, unable to relax and make mistakes and do the job of growing up and being a child, because they never know if the elf is spying on them, ready and waiting to report back to Santa Claus that they’ve been bad.
Here is a link to the paper that the article is talking about
My co-worker got Elf on the Shelf for her four-year-old daughter last year, and was so freaked out by her daughter’s sudden and complete change in behaviour (uncharacteristically worried and anxious, while trying to be on her ‘best’ behaviour that she never kept up for family or at school) that she stuffed Elf in the garbage after a week, telling the daughter that the Elf had to go back to the North Pole to help Santa with Christmas.
Also read the paper linked above, it’s a good one.
I hate this entire concept so much.
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It is great to see strong women who can overcome challenges. We can be our own superheroes. We have to talk about domestic violence and the long term impact it has on the survivors and the children who witness abuse. That is the only way we will find the ways to change.
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- Rape Culture: If a woman drinks alcohol and gets raped, it's partially her fault. If you don't want to get raped, you shouldn't be drinking.
- Men at bars: Can I buy you a drink?
- Me: No thanks.
- Men at bars: What the fuck, why not? Come on. Come ON, let me buy you some alcohol. God, I was being nice. Why would you turn down my generous offer? I guess chivalry really is dead. What a bitch.
Anonymous asked: Not all white people are racist. Seriously. Please don't make hurtful generalizations.
Yes we are.
*nod* This tho…
You don’t go years from when you’re a baby listening to normalized racism in society without absorbing that shit. Instead of insisting you aren’t racist, work on figuring out where and how you are racist and work on destroying that.
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if i ever have kids instead of being like “it’s a boy” im going to send out highly bewildering cards that say things like “it’s the chosen one” and “it’s probably not a lizard” and “we’re not sure what it is, but it just set the couch on fire, please send help” with a different thing to every person i send one to just to see what people show up at the baby shower with
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Psychiatrist appointments are so stressful, because I have less than ten minutes to tell the doctor everything about how I’m doing and what med changes I might need. It’s more like putting on a presentation than like being cared for. And every time I have to tell her “whatever we’re doing isn’t working, I still feel awful,” it’s more like I’m disappointing her than like she’s disappointing me.
(I don’t have a bad doctor, by the way. She’s all right, she just has too many patients and not enough tools for treating them. Which I can empathize with.)
And I’m very verbal and relatively good at self-expression. I can’t even imagine how people who aren’t get through this.
Okay, so how I deal with medical stuff is I write down a list of all the things they need to know, and put it in order, and then I hand it to them, and while they read I get a minute or two just to breathe and calm myself before they say very much. It’s really helpful because you don’t have to remember anything on the spot.
I’ll try this! Sounds a lot better than trying to remember and consolidate everything on the spot.
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The rage that white men have been expressing, loudly, violently, over the very idea that they might find themselves identifying with characters who are not white men, the very idea that heroism might not be particular to one race or one gender, the basic idea that the human story is vast and various and we all get to contribute a page - that rage is petty. It is aware of its own pettiness. Like a screaming toddler denied a sweet, it becomes more righteous the more it reminds itself that after all, it’s only a story.
Only a story. Only the things we tell to keep out the darkness. Only the myths and fables that save us from despair, to establish power and destroy it, to teach each other how to be good, to describe the limits of desire, to keep us breathing and fighting and yearning and striving when it’d be so much easier to give in. Only the constitutive ingredients of every human society since the Stone age.
Only a story. Only the most important thing in the whole world.
The people who are upset that the faces of fiction are changing are right to worry. It’s a fundamental challenge to a worldview that’s been too comfortable for too long. The part of our cultural imagination that places white Western men at the centre of every story is the same part that legitimises racism and sexism. The part of our collective mythos that encourages every girl and brown boy to identify and empathise with white male heroes is the same part that reacts with rage when white boys are asked to imagine themselves in anyone else’s shoes.
“…because when you’ve been used to privilege, equality feels like prejudice.”
and also
“Capitalism is just a story. Religion is just a story. Patriarchy and white supremacy are just stories. They are the great organising myths that define our societies and determine our futures, and I believe - I hope - that a great rewriting is slowly, surely underway.”
^^^^ YES. This whole thing is glorious.
The thing is important. Click through and read the thing!… Imagine how over time that rage would harden into bewilderment, and finally mute acceptance that people like you were never going to get to be the hero, not really.
Then imagine that suddenly starting to change. Imagine letting out a breath you’d held between your teeth so long you’d forgotten the taste of air.
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Why is love at first sight okay for straight people but for lesbians it’s “u-hauling”? Why do straight people get to have passionate love stories but for us it’s just “the lesbian urge to merge”? Why are our relationships doomed to be too intense to last? Why do we suffer “lesbian bed death” but straight people’s relationships simply mature? Why do we have to question every single thing we do as a couple because we aren’t allowed to love with the same validity and purity that straight people are given?
I feel like y'all should reblog this because straight people seem to have no idea that “gay marriage” doesn’t mean that homophobia is over.
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I WOULD SAY THIS IS JUST HYPERBOLE BUT THEN THE FUCKING WHITE ASSHOLES SAY ITS OK FOR THEM TO TAKE OVER A FEDERAL BUILDING WHILE ARMED AND COMMIT A TERRORIST ACT, ESSENTIALLY, BECAUSE AT LEAST THEY’RE NOT BLACK
DO WE REMEMBER THE WALL TO WALL COVERAGE OF A BURNING FUCKING CVS?!
DONT FUCKING TELL ME WHITE SUPREMACY ISNT REAL. I AM SO FUCKING TIRED OF YOUR SHIT WHITE AMERICA WHAT THE FUCK.
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